Super Mom Charity Ford says that being called a “super mom” is beyond flattering, but to her three sons, she is just “mama”.
“We are all ‘super-moms’, I just think we do super in different ways,” Charity says. “I’m thankful that I have several super moms who always have supported me, including my mom Janet, stepmom Kathryn, my mother-in-law Kathy, my MawMaw, and my Grammy, who has passed away.”
Charity and her husband Keith, an investigator with Kentucky’s Alcoholic Beverage Control, have three sons: Sawyer (13) and twins, Cooper and Logan (11).
Charity is a mom, cancer survivor and business owner. She runs Cookies by Charity, which gives her the flexibility to drive her three sons to and from all their practices and activities. Luckily for Charity, she has always been a night owl, so she tends to do the cookie decorating after all is quiet in the Ford house.
“I have been the mom with a full-time job outside of the home, and a stay-at-home mom with a part-time job. It’s all hard, stressful, exhausting, but being a mom is the best gift ever,” she says.
In December 2014, Charity was diagnosed with stage 2 breast cancer. Charity’s mom, Janet, is a two-time breast cancer survivor. During Janet’s second diagnosis, she and Charity underwent chemotherapy at the same time. The next year was consumed with chemotherapy, radiation and surgeries, and a lot of time spent in bed.
“My family is in Louisiana, so my mom and I went through a lot together, just miles apart,” Charity says. “It’s safe to say that 2015 was the hardest year for our family. Learning to let go, and let people help me and my family, was a lesson I had to learn really fast.”
After chemotherapy ended, Charity started a project called Bags of Sunshine. She delivers bags filled with items to use while undergoing treatment. To date, Charity has delivered more than 1,300 bags to cancer patients and their families. In 2017, she was honored by the American Cancer Society at their Belles and Beaus Gala for her efforts.
“My hope is that my boys have learned what it means to fight, what it means to help, and what it means to give back,” she says.
From football to soccer to playing trumpet, the Ford boys are very active, but Charity and Keith make it a priority to have regular dates with their sons to regroup.
“If I’ve learned anything as a mom, it’s this: while we may strive for perfection, our kids don’t care about perfect, they just want our attention. I have regular dates with my boys. It’s either lunch or dinner at Schlotzsky’s, followed by a trip to Half-Price Books and Target. It’s just our thing,” she says. “All five of us being free at the same time is rare, but when possible we enjoy going out for pizza or Mexican food, and of course attending the boys’ sporting events.”
As Charity explains, keeping calm, knowing when she needs a break and learning to let things go are challenges she recognizes in motherhood.
“Believe me, I am the mom who needs alone time, time for myself and time to recharge,” she says. “I think knowing the need for these things makes me a better mom. But seriously, I think the most challenging part of being a parent is preparing your children for adulthood. That’s what we are doing, making adults. I am trying to be aware of this on a daily basis while keeping in mind they are still kids. Sometimes it can be a tough balance, but I am raising three sweet, caring young men.”
While motherhood brings its unique set of challenges, Charity says that the rewards are well worth it.
“Watching my boys work hard at something is so rewarding—it could be jamming in the school variety show, kicking a personal best field goal or acing a test at school. My boys are pretty amazing and they are by far my best creations,” she says.