It happened! He put a ring on it. You called your family, friends, and even Instagrammed/Tweeted/Facebooked a pic of your ring #engagementbling!!! #lovethisman for everyone to see. The hard part is over. Or is it?
Planning a wedding can be one of the most stressful and exciting events of your life. Not only do you have to live up to your childhood fantasy of The Perfect Wedding (you know your Barbie and Ken wedding was so perfect - you cried), you’re also contending with pop culture. “Say Yes to the Dress”, Kimye, and even the Royal Wedding make it seem like a social norm to have security, a million dollar dress, and the queen at your wedding. Plus, for the first time in your life, you will have to think about things you never even considered, like the fact that the only available date at your dream wedding location happens to be on the one-year anniversary of your best friend’s big break-up.
Weddings can wreak havoc on even the most confident girl. So, when faced with a serious bout of pre-wedding confidence shakers, here are five things you can do to make sure that you keep your sanity during the planning phase.
Learn to Say No
With a huge chunk of diamond on your finger, it’s second nature to talk weddings with everyone you meet. During this time, you'll learn that everyone has an opinion on where to get your cake, buy your dress, and have the ceremony. It's all well and good to listen to the thoughts, opinions, and experiences of those who have been there before, but it’s important to let Helpful Hannahs know that you and your groom plan to make all final decisions. If you let other people run the show, it won’t be long until you get cornered into accepting Aunt Bessie’s recommendation to let cousin Ronnie DJ.
Plan for the Worst and Hope for the Best
Outdoor weddings exist for one reason: to panic the bride. If you plan for an outdoor wedding, or a destination wedding, or even a good, old-fashioned, everything-should-go-according-to-plan wedding, have a backup plan ready. The odds are good that you won’t need it, but things do happen. Having a plan already in place will put you in a position of power over whatever it is that you worry may go wrong.
Say Yes to Free Labor
Your family and friends want to help you have the best day ever. So, when they keep offering to help out, let them help out! One of the biggest confidence killers for brides-to-be is the silly belief that you have suddenly transformed into some expert event planner just because you decided to get married. But here’s the reality: life doesn’t stop just because you have to plan a wedding. In addition to work, school, and maintaining the relationship that inspired you to walk down the aisle in the first place, you’ll have a whole myriad of tasks to complete. Instead of trying to handle everything on your own, delegate tasks to family and friends eager to help out. It takes a village – and typically, the Village People - to pull off a stress-free wedding.
Schedule a Date with Your Future Husband
Hey, remember that guy you fell in love with? Don't forget about him in the midst of choosing buttercream frosting or fondant. Schedule date nights with a clear rule: no wedding discussions. That way, you can spend some time doing all the things that brought you together in the first place, instead of ruining a perfectly good Netflix-binge night talking about seating charts or whether or not to release doves. The details can wait.
Keep it in Perspective
It might seem romantic to think your wedding day will be the most important day of your life but keep it in perspective. Your big day will be an incredibly significant and special day. Still, it’s just one day out of countless more to come. Trust in the decisions you made during the planning process. You know what you want – after all, you picked your groom. Focus on the reason the two of you are there in the first place: you found true love. Celebrate it!