10 Ways To Be Unapologetically You!


You don’t need a red hat to wear with your purple pantsuit, and you don’t have to wait until you’re old (whatever that means). You can start living your unvarnished, no-sorry- given truth right now. We’ve collected advice, ideas, and tips for being your authentic, out-loud self right NOW. Please, use it responsibly.

1. Listen to Betty White.

On manners: “I just make it my business to get along with people so I can have fun. It’s that simple.”

On getting older: “It’s not a surprise, we knew it was coming—make the most of it. So you may not be as fast on your feet, and the image in your mirror may be a little disappointing, but if you are still functioning and not in pain, gratitude should be the name of the game.”

On fitness: “I’m a health nut. My favorite food is hot dogs with French fries. And my exercise: I have a two-story house and a very bad memory, so I’m up and down those stairs.”

On making it count: “Everybody needs a passion. That’s what keeps life interesting. If you live without passion, you can go through life without leaving any footprints.”

On not giving a hoot: “I may be a senior, but so what? I’m still hot.”

2. Hats!

When did we all just stop wearing hats? They’re a fun fashion accessory that can take an outfit from basic to bold in two seconds flat. A leopard print beret, a red velvet fedora, an adorable straw boater hat... whatever you add to your wardrobe, it will surely cause people around you to stand up and take notice.

A little shy about committing to the hat life right out of the gate? Padded headbands are very on-trend at the moment, and they’re a great stepping stone toward becoming a full-fledged hat person.

3. Stop Waiting

This may sound like a “duh,” but your one, real, incredible life is happening RIGHT NOW.

Of course you know that, but are you living like it? Ask yourself this question: how many things in your life are you waiting for “someday” to fully enjoy or start doing?

You probably have a set of “special” dishes, like wedding china or something you inherited. You’re waiting to pull them out of the cupboard for a dinner party, for an occasion, for a particular right moment in the universe that seems to call for the good plates. How much more joy could you get if you drank your morning coffee out of those dainty little cups, or ate your dessert on those darling plates? How much more fun would you have if you stopped worrying about breaking the dishes and started actually using them?

There are so many things in our lives that we’re saving for a special occasion, a special spot, a special friend. But what if we looked at every day as a special occasion? What if we started celebrating everything as the unique, wonderful, one-of-a-kind person, place, thing, or moment that it is?

4. Seize the Gray!

More and more people are choosing to embrace their hair exactly as it is, and that includes their gray. After a certain age, it’s the lie that we’re all shelling out cash every other week to maintain. We’re not dissing hair dye – trust us, we’re fans – but if you’re already tired of the upkeep, why not let your inner silver fox out? You’ve earned every strand of your silver crown, so wear it with pride!

Need some inspiration? Check out the Instagram account @grombre!

5. Make A Statement

We love big ol’ jewelry and bags. There’s magic in giant accessories; add ‘em to even the most basic outfit and suddenly you’re a conversation starter. Think huge hoops, bold necklaces, bright purses, intricate cufflinks, larger-than-life rings.

6. Wear Yellow

Even if – no, especially if – it’s “not your color.” Yellow is an incredibly joyful, mood-lifting hue. No one will doubt that you’re completely committed to living your best life if you’re hitting the streets in an ensemble that features gold, mustard, dandelion, or buttery yellow! If you truly believe you can’t pull it off, wear your yellow further from your face.

7. Wear Red Lipstick

Yeah, it’s daunting. Do it anyway. Find the shade that fits you and wear it everywhere. Daytime, nighttime, anytime.

Universal: Maybelline New York Color Sensational Made for All Lipstick in Ruby for Me ($6)

Fair: Chanel Rouge Allure Luminous Intense Lip Colour in Pirate ($38)

Medium: Fenty Beauty Mattemmoiselle Plush Matte Lipstick in Ma'Damn ($18)

Deep: HUDA Beauty Power Bullet in Promotion Day ($25)

8. Make Mistakes

"The only thing I regret about my past is the length of it. If I had to live my life again I’d make all the same mistakes – only sooner.“

- 1930s film star Tallulah Bankhead

9. Date Yourself

You deserve a night out on the town. Why wait for someone special to pick up the phone? Take yourself out on a date! Grab a table for one at a romantic restaurant, and eat lavishly. Enjoy live music without worrying about keeping up a conversation. Park yourself at the bar and people-watch.

10. Mix Your Prints

If you've lived in fear of "clashing" patterns, it's time to let your inner minimalist roar! If you've ever picked up a copy of Vogue, you know mixed prints can be incredibly chic. Don't worry: there are tried and true tips to help steer you clear of Clown School. 

  • Smaller, less high contrast prints can effectively work as a "neutral" in your outfit: for instance, pinstripes, small polka dots, and herringbone are so subtle, they can easily pair with a different pattern.
  • Embrace the power of a monochrome, multi-print look.
  • When combining mixed patterns, always have a solid piece to anchor the outfit, like a basic blazer or cardigan.